Take a moment and think of the last time you had a disagreement, a misunderstanding, or a conflict with your partner, one of your family members, friends, colleagues, or maybe customers. How did it feel? Wasn’t it stressful and frustrating?
Do you easily get angry, upset, or anxious when you communicate with other people? Would you like to change the feeling you’re getting each time you want to communicate a different opinion and actually start creating harmony and enjoying the talk?
Let’s start by understanding:
Therefore the primary goal of resolving conflict isn’t to establish who’s the right or wrongdoer, as the aim is to get to a solution that both parties find palatable in the long run. That’s why in order to make this happen, you must crucially place a laser-beam focus on the needs, so you can eventually find the right solutions that could please the various parties.
And, to determine the needs, you must correctly find out the reason behind why the parties are requiring the solutions they initially outlined.
Yet, among all these steps, the one that rightly characterizes all the great influencers is the capacity to listen!
As actively listening allows us to easily suspend the assumptions, judgments, and values imposed by our past experiences, displacing our subjective mind, heart, and will to the experience, perception, and values of the other.
Active listening is the right door to understanding. It allows the healthy and necessary displacement from the center of our ego to the periphery where change and innovation can be discovered.
As NLP teaches individuals to learn the easiest and the most effective tools to resolve conflict, people start cracking the cooperation code to magically master the ability of positive influence.
WHY?! NLP explores the link between the language we use, our thoughts, and our actions. It uses conscious changes in language to bring about positive transformations in behavior and mindset. Since a lot of conflict finds its roots in poor communication and negative thoughts, taking a course in NLP is a great way to develop your conflict management skills!
Remember, one of the principles that NLP teaches you, is the ability to take a step back and become an observer in stressful situations. When you are capable of doing this, you can easily start viewing the conflict without being carried away by the emotions involved in it.
From this objective viewpoint, you will unconsciously start finding that you are able to think more clearly about the situation to rationally start finding solutions.
While NLP also teaches you a lot about communication styles, having this knowledge allows you to effortlessly start noticing the direct and indirect effects of d the way you speak from the result of your communication.
For that reason, learning NLP will definitely help you in remaining calm in stressful situations while using the right tone, pace, and volume of speech to lead others to the place you want them to reach.
In fact, conflict does not have to be necessarily a source of anxiety and fear, as It can be an opportunity for change and innovation. As I see it, it’s an invitation to open your mind, your heart, and your will to elevate your game, to get to the next level in your own life, or that of your family or organization. It is an invitation to open the door to the emerging future.
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